This topic of feminine energy dating is near and dear to my heart. I have seen many women being treated badly and being frustrated with their dating options. I am included in that group and have noticed that I settled in certain dating situations when I should not have.
Now I realised I like other women was in my wounded feminine or sometimes in my blocked feminine energy. This is nothing new, in fact, it feels as though society now wants women to be masculine and so we have disconnected from our divine femininity.
Rather than complain about dating and men and what they are not doing, we have to look at ourselves and see what it is we are doing to attract these men that we complain about.
This brings me to our discussion today on feminine energy dating and follows my previous post on how to be in your feminine energy with a man.
Without further ado, let’s jump into it!
Steps to Feminine Energy Dating
Have Clarity
The first step before anything else is knowing what you want. Know what kind of guy you want and what kind of life you want. And when I say know what kind of guy you want I don’t mean tall, dark, and handsome (that’s nice but not the most important). I am talking about how you want to be treated, what are your values, and your expectations from the man you are dating.
Ask yourself:
What are your desires and what are your standards?
What will you let slide and what are your absolute dealbreakers?
You need to get crystalline clear on these things before dating if not you will run into trouble. You will start to lower your standards and accept things you know you don’t feel comfortable with.
To help you get clarity you can journal on it. Sit with yourself and truly feel what you deeply desire and write it down. No matter how ludicrous it may seem. WRITE IT DOWN AND OWN IT!
Do Not Put All Your Eggs in One Basket
Feminine women are not desperate and do not act as though there is only one man on the planet. This includes chasing him and doing things for him. We do not do those things while dating.
You must have an abundance mindset. Where you believe there are many men out there and that you can attract many men of quality.
Having an abundance mindset will lead to you putting yourself first instead of a man you are only dating. I would further this by stating you should date more than one man.
Let multiple men court you until you decide who is the best suitor for you. This does not mean you have to be intimate with any of them. Depending on your standards you don’t even have to kiss any of these guys. It is about getting to know who they are and connecting emotionally and seeing if their values align with yours.
Let Go of Control
If you are a “boss babe” or a very successful career woman or entrepreneur, you are used to being in control of everything. You are very much in your masculine energy which is good because it served it to get to where you are now. Your masculine energy gave you the structure you needed to help you be successful in work.
On the other hand, this same masculine energy is sabotaging your dating life. Why? Because you are acting like the man in the relationship. Which then makes the man feel emasculated and it just goes downhill from there.
If you truly desire a masculine man you need to be in your feminine energy. You need to relinquish the lead and let him do the planning.
Let him make the date plans.
Let him lead.
Treat him as a capable adult and not as a child.
To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn’t know what to do or that he can’t do it on his own.
John Gray
Be Magnetic
When I say be magnetic, you might be asking how do I do that?
I will give an analogy here – be the shiny object.
Think of how shiny objects attract birds and even us women. Diamonds and sparkly things are so attractive and hard to resist looking at. This requires you to radiate feminine energy which will attract healthy masculine men.
Feminine energy makes a man fall in love.
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This also ties in with having an abundant mindset, if you know you are radiant you won’t act desperate. You won’t be in the energy of chasing a man. On the contrary, men will chase YOU! Your femininity is so potent that many men will be drawn to you without you doing anything. You just have to be.
Femininity not only attracts potential suitors but also women, children, and animals that is how divine your feminine energy is!
The way to be magnetic is to focus on filling up your life with friends, activities, and hobbies that you enjoy. You do not direct all your energy to one man. When you fill yourself up by doing what you enjoy. You radiate and draw men in even more.
FAQs Feminine Energy Dating
How to be in your feminine energy with a man?
I expand on this in my previous article but here is a summary.
- Cultivate Self-Awareness
- Embrace Receptivity
- Practice Emotional Honesty
- Surrender Control
- Honour Your Intuition
- Embody Sensuality
- Foster Emotional Connection
- Cultivate Playfulness and Spontaneity
- Appreciate Masculine Energy
- Prioritise Self-Care
How do you show feminine energy when dating?
showing feminine energy in dating means having clarity on your standards and boundaries. Also, not putting all your eggs in one basket, learning to let go of control, and being magnetic.
How does feminine energy attract a man?
Feminine energy is radiant and inviting, soft and confident and fun. It attracts men because it is something they crave and is what creates polarity in relationships.
What does feminine energy feel like to a man?
It feels magical! Men feel empowered, masculine, and needed. This is how men fall in love, feminine energy makes a man feel good and happy.
Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.
John Gray
Summary
By embracing the following you are showing feminine energy in dating:
- Have clarity
- Do not put all your eggs in one basket
- Let go of control
- Be magnetic
Feminine energy dating involves even more lessons and there are also step-by-step details that I could go further into. Let me know in the comments how these work for you and if you would like to learn more about dating with your femininity.
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